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PEP TALK: INDEPENDENCE
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It has always been said that you can be in a room full of people and still feel lonely. To take this even further, you can be in a world full of friends, family, supporters, and strangers-- yet still, be independent. Independence is something we were all born, whether we realize it or not. There may be times where you feel like if you were to lose someone or something, then you would become lost. This simply is not true.
A harsh reality we all must face is that change is inevitable. People change, jobs change, feelings change, and we ourselves change. We can’t control the change around us, but we can control the change within us. No matter the circumstance, our independent self is the only person we can count on to shape our lives. Luckily, this is a wonderful thing.
As I said earlier, independence is always inside of us, but sometimes we can get distracted when we rely on other people or things. This is only a distraction and there are ways to avoid them in order to find comfort in being independent.
Why is it important to feel independent?
The answer is simple. One day, you will come face to face with a situation where you have no choice, but to make your own choices. You might be ending a relationship, moving somewhere new, starting a new job, or going to or graduating school. One day, the time will come where nobody will be there to hold your hand, so you have to stand tall and walk yourself straight into new opportunities.
How can you begin to feel independent?
Well, you must start by getting in touch with who you are. One would think they know enough about themselves, but there is always more to learn. We are constantly changing, which means you should constantly question yourself. What makes you happy? What do you value? What do you want? Challenge yourself to reflect, learn, and grow. In short, discover what makes you, you.
Once you feel independent, what is the next step?
Use the unique knowledge you’ve learned about yourself and connect it to your goals. Find your strengths, weaknesses, and special personality and discover all the ways they will help you reach the future that you want to have.
Once you’re independent, you realize you are never alone... and there is nothing you cannot accomplish!
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In short, discover what makes you, you.
This is critically underrated in modern society. There’s no formal means of self-discovery. What’s the use of education if it doesn’t teach you how to live your life? Great article! -
We can’t control the change around us, but we can control the change within us.
Great sentence and in my opinion the most important thing you wrote. If we are in control of ourselves we will most likely become independent. Thanks for sharing Emily! -
Oddly, the more independent you are (up to a point), the more likely it is that you can have a good relationship. You will be sure of your own values and desires, instead of looking to another person to supply them.
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It has always been said that you can be in a room full of people and still feel lonely. To take this even further, you can be in a world full of friends, family, supporters, and strangers-- yet still, be independent
I love how you tied these two together, and put independence and introversion into perspective. -
A harsh reality we all must face is that change is inevitable. People change, jobs change, feelings change, and we ourselves change. We can’t control the change around us, but we can control the change within us. No matter the circumstance, our independent self is the only person we can count on to shape our lives.
All of this. If this ain't the truth. I always said to myself. "If you want something to be done right, have to do it yourself." That's been my philosophy. Relying on people can be very distracting. It can be very toxic, and can lead you to having to owe someone, getting caught in dealing with a person who does not have your best intentions at heart. Even if you fail at a task, it feels better to fail at your own, than to succeed at something someone else wants, or at what you want, but failed because you had someone else do it who couldn't do it up to part as you could. We're better at preventing our own problems for the most part, than someone else. Great article Emily. -
I think a good deal of people equate independence with loneliness or being alone, which as you state is simply not true. People come to rely on others to such an extent that they sacrifice their independence for another, be it a person or thing. Independence frees your mind, your spirit to do a be the real you. For me, Independence and freedom go hand in hand. Independence relates to self-determination and the capability of self-choice and freedom removes the obstacles that would inhibit that determination and choice. A very thought provoking topic!