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WOMENS' MODESTY - WHY SO OPPRESSIVE?
Why are so many cultures obsessed with modesty? Especially modesty for women. It seems that as a woman, no matter what you do, you just cannot dress right. Jeans and a t-shirt - those jeans are too tight. Tank top and shorts - your bra strap is showing and those shorts are way too short. Oh, and heaven forbid if you don't even wear a bra. And then there is the opposite side of the spectrum. Long skirts and dresses - well aren't you so holy. Where does this all end?
Why are women so critiqued when we make choices on how we dress? So what if I want to wear booty shorts or a long-sleeved maxi dress. Does it affect your life that much if I choose not to wear a bra under my shirt? I am condemned if I do and condemned if I don't.
The thing is, we are born naked. We do not come out of our mother's womb fully dressed in socially acceptable clothing. We are not told from day one that we must cover every inch of our body. It is the opposite in fact.
Photo shoots of newborns and children under one year old often feature those "cheeky" little shots of their behind. We dress them up in outfits to make them look like little cherubs. We pinch their cheeks, both kinds, and tell them how adorable they are. And then, those photos are posted onto social media and made into calendars. Oftentimes, those photos will be put in a family photo album or hung on the wall in a home. This is normal for many societies. We view it as cute, adorable, and innocent. Heaven forbid though, if a woman wears shorts that accent her ass a bit too much. What is up with this double standard? And why does it apply to women so much more than men?
For example, if a man walks around with his shirt off, many of us won't give a second glance. If a woman did the same thing there would be people shielding their eyes, catcalling, and suggestive gestures made at her. Disapproving glares would make this woman feel as though her body is something to be ashamed of.
What is the true difference between a man with his shirt off and a woman doing the same. A little extra fat. That's right. Fat. Men and women's breast areas are made up of basically the same thing. Women simply tend to have more fatty tissue and lobules. (The milk producing glands of the breast.) So outwardly, there is little to no difference between men and women's chest than a bit extra "roundness". The nipples on our chest also look the same. How are a woman's nipples so different except that we have the glorious ability to feed a child through them? If anything, our nipples should be prized and praised - not sexualized.
Now I know that in some countries, women are accepted for being topless as it is less normalized as being a sexual thing. Yet in America, if a woman so much as pulls her breast out to feed her child, she is ostracized.
We wear too much clothing, we are judged. We don't wear enough, we are also condemned. If we feed our young children in the way they are meant to be, we are shunned. And in all this, we are constantly sexualized.
What are we as women to do in a society that tells us what we can or cannot wear and then judges us even when we follow the "rules"?
Well, we can tell them to "shove it where the sun don't shine". Women, we are in control of who we are. Every day we wake up and decide who we want to be. Shame on anyone who tries to tell us how we are to live our life. It is our own to decide.
We live in a society where injustices against women are committed every day. We have begun to take a stand against these forces. I encourage you to continue to show the world how powerful a woman is.
We should not stand for a society that does not want us to be empowered through the way we dress or choose to live. Do not let them constantly sexualize normality. Take back the self-love and courage that is ours and change the universe with it. Let us no longer lie down and be walked upon by people who consider us to be their inferiors. We will once again be in charge of our destinies.
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