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MY BIGGEST PARENTING REGRET
As a working mom who does what I can to make ends meet, I try not to get down on myself because everything I do, I do to better our lives. But let's be honest, no one is perfect and there are plenty of things that are beyond our immediate control.
I do have my share of regrets but for the most part, my biggest regret as a parent is not getting to fully cherish my babies. Between working a full-time job, cooking, cleaning, and everything else that comes along with the job, looking back it is all a blur.
I didn't have time to slow down and take the time I feel we deserved.
I wish I could have taken them to the park more and watched them play. I wish I would have slowed down to listen to everything that excited them and made them happy or sad. I wish I could have spent the summers with them and took them more places and seen more things. (We did go on a few family vacations, Biloxi MS and Fort Walton Beach FL) I wish I would have had time to take them to the zoo.
There are so many things that I see missing when I look back on the past but if I wouldn't have been working, we wouldn't have made it. Working is a fact of life, it's just sad when it interferes with the mother that you would like to be.
ON THE BRIGHT SIDE:
I am working toward a life where I work completely from home. I'm not there yet but I think within the next few months I will achieve this goal. I get down on myself and sad but the truth is, my oldest son is 6 and my youngest is 1. I still have time to make up for what I have missed out on. The important thing is that I'm working toward it.
I plan for this summer to be filled with fun activities and time spent with my babies without having to worry about rushing around or resting for work in the morning. The term "SOUL SUCKING JOB" is so true for me. It has taken more from me than I ever imagined possible including having to go back to work after 2 weeks of having my 1-year-old because the job that I have been with for 4 years didn't have paid maternity leave and I couldn't pay the bills without working. I just wish I would have started my journey to work at home a long time ago.
I have always liked to think that everything happens for a reason. I can't get the time I have lost back but I CAN make up for the time I missed and I fully intend on doing just that!
If you are a working mommy and are facing the same situation I have and am facing, remember it is never too late to make a change and that our kids don't see it the way we see it. They are just happy with the time they get to spend with us, not what they are missing out on. When you finally get the time to do these extra things, your kids will be so excited to be doing something they haven't experienced that that is all they will remember.
As moms, we have to do what we have to do to keep our worlds spinning. Salute to all the working moms whether you go out and work or work from home! Oh and just being a mom is work within itself so I guess I should say SALUTE TO ALL MOMMIES handling their business! You guys are an inspiration to me!
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