DEALING WITH FEELING LIKE CRAP

We all have those moments. To some, it could be everyday.

But in most instances, the reason you're feeling down, or feel like you're nothing but absolute crap, is the people around you.

Either you felt like a certain person was so unfair on you regarding a certain matter; or your own parent made you feel like, for the hundredth time, that you disappoint them; or simply someone you know had been on your back spouting the same things to you over and over that you got tired of it a long time ago, yet that person still spouts to this day.

Well, people could do that to other people. But if you pile that up with: unfulfilled dreams, personal disappointments, stress... well you're on your way to depression. And most times, if not always, that leads to suicide.

Sad. Tragic.

But why give up on this life just becuase of those things. You won't feel like that forever, and if it's your everyday then its about time you do something. You can't just wallow in all those negativity till your last breath. That's not what life should be like to you, or for anyone, for that matter. So what to do when you're in that moment, where you feel like there's just no one there for you, no one to understand you, or even just take a while to sit down and listen.

I'm not sure if this could help but, you're not gonna lose anything if you try.

Anyway below is just a few of those things I think would help dealing with that crappy feeling.

1. Remeber that there is a God.
He's up there, watching over you, have big plans for you. Give some time with your spirituality and try nourishing your soul. Try a bit of meditation if you're a bit unsure about praying. All this negative vibes will pass, like the time you were high on hormones when you were a teenager, and thought that you will never get over your first "love", until you met the next person.

2. Release your frustrations out into the world.
If you're not the religious type, try releasing those bad energy through physical action. Instead of moping around in your room, contemplating about how bad everything is going for you, why not try letting it lose instead of bottling it up inside you and keeping it to yourself. You workout in the gym? Try the punching bag. Nothing like a good solid punch (or two... or more) to let loose. Or a morning run, with music blaring in your ears from the earphones plugged to your mobile. You can scream it out. Scream into your pillow, or out in open space. Just make sure you're neighbors are not at home, or that you're alone at home. Or maybe just look for a good place where you can be alone and its totally okay for you to scream.

3. Cry it out.
The old fashion way of doing it may be, cryring. Yes, yes, soaking your pillow wet with tears may seem equivalent to moping in you room, but shedding a few tears helps cleanse the soul. Think about it -- those times you cried your heart out, let loose for a few minutes, everything just poured out like a flood; and right after you're done you feel better, even just a little.

4. Consider having a journal/diary.
Another way of letting it loose is writing. Buy a journal, or a simple notebook, heck, you can use the back of that used paper on that time you printed the wrong document. Write it all down, all the things you're frustrated about, people and/or things that makes you feel a little less than happy. Scribble away with your hand moving as fast as those crappy thoughts in your mind come flooding in, chances are you'll get tired in middle of it. Then forget what you were writing in the first place, or lose the motivation to continue. If you did finish, and is satisfied with what you've written, read it silently to yourself. Maybe even get lost in the words, momentarily forget its your words and were written by a stranger. A diary may be good to your mental health.

5. Listen to music.
Re-visit your playlist and reconsider listening to it. Better yet, create a new playlist of newly discovered songs you think is good. Let it wash over you, the harmony, the singer's voice, get hung up on the lyrics. Music can also be good to the soul. Hum along or contemplate on what the message of the song could be. Or you could just simply enjoy it.

6. Remeber, they're just human, like you.
People may dump their frustrations on other people, that happens. The person could be under a lot of stress and everything just piled up in one go, and unintentionally they may lash out at the first person they set their eyes on. What to keep in mind? Its not personal. They don't have a problem with you, they may have problems with something or is just having a bad day but it should have nothing to do with you. If its a parent, remember parents are going to be parents through and through, they just want what's best for their children even until after the teenage years. Maybe they've seen you doing the same mistakes they've done in the past and wouldn't want you to end up like them. Or maybe their expectations of you wasn't met and couldn't help but make their disappointment known. You know, just to give you little push toward the right path again. Still, they're your parents, its up to you to decide when and how you'll assure them (firmly) that you are your own person and can handle things your own way. Now, if its someone you know that you have to deal with everyday and couldn't do anything about it; if you don't live under the same roof, you're still okay. Because you're still able to get some distance away from this person, despite seeing them everyday. If its a co-worker, a boss, you have the weekends. Or vacation leaves, for that matter. Holidays are a bonus. They just might have issues of their own, or it could be that they're like that just because. Now if its someone who lives with you, if you have the option of walking away then it might be time to look for a new place of your own. If not, try to find more time for yourself to be by yourself, or hangout with good friends. If not, try speaking your mind about how you feel when you're calm and have your thoughts collected.

Lastly;

7. Give yourself some slack.
Treat yourself every once a while. Eat the foods on your guilty list. Triple scoop banana split, pizza with all the toppings, double-patty burger. Have a slow, lazy weekend. Binge watch anything on Netflix, re-watch favorite Korean dramas, or the entire past seasons of The Walking Dead. Everyone deserves a break every once a while, which is why "weekends" and "vacations" exist. A nice power nap may also do. Some food and a nice nap could be good. Food and nap can be added to the lazy weekend. :)

So, those are just my suggestions, some of which really works for me. To each person their own, so choosing a method that works for you could be the best. Though a hug really works, too.

And those are my thoughts.