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MY BOYCOTT OF DATING APPS
Sometimes, I sit and think about what dating was like without technology. I've never really lived in that world, but I just like to fantasize about it. No cell phones, no dating apps, no social media. What a dream. I know most people are probably not thinking of this as a dream, but for me and speaking strictly in regards to dating, is really is one.
See, I'm not one for dating apps and making my first contact with someone via text. It's actually embarrassing how uncomfortable I am with the idea of meeting anyone on any kind of app. Pretty much everything about it is just against my core being and nothing is going to change my mind about it. I know, intense.
And it's not that I don't think it's possible to meet someone you have a real connection with on an app (I was just maid of honor for my friend who met her husband on Tinder), but I just don't want to meet anyone that way.
I want the romance of meeting someone. I want to be out and somehow, by fate, we meet. We start talking and become friends right away. After hanging out a couple times, we realize our true feelings and live happily ever after. Or something like that. I'm not even really a romantic person at all, but when it comes to how I meet my future partner, I have unreasonably high expectations.
When you're talking to someone through an app, you can't tell if they're even being genuine or not. Without seeing them, you really have no idea who you could be talking to. Not only that, but by texting before you even meet, there's all of this awkward build-up. For someone like me, who's already awkward to begin with, that's kind of a nightmare.
It's fun to wonder what was it like when meeting someone out in real life was your only option. And, even when you did meet someone you liked, you really had to make the effort to see them again. Once you did get the chance to see them again, you had to cherish every moment (you couldn't just text them when you got home).
Meeting someone on an app is probably a lot easier than waiting for the right person to show up in real life, but for me, it's just worth it. It wouldn't be authentic for me to meet anyone that way, so why would I want to? Just because something's popular, doesn't mean it's right for you. Live your life the way you want to live it and don't let society or anyone else tell you otherwise.
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