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Twenty-five is the age where you feel the world kind of shift around you and if you're like me, you were never ready. You are now entering a world of adulthood that you thought you had all under control. Hilarious. Things now begin to shift in ways that you aren't expecting and as scary as it might be, here are some of the lessons I've learned when navigating through the other side of my twenties. I became a mom at 22 + had no idea what I was doing. I was still trying to figure who I was out, never mind trying to bring up a little human with all these ideas that I wish I would have grown up knowing. When reading through this list, there may be a few that you can feel + the rest? Well it's a pretty raw depiction of what I am learning to be. Maybe you feel the same way?

 

25 things I've learned at 25.

 

1. Not everyone you meet will like you. It's not your job to make them either. It's okay and that's part of life.

2. You will make mistakes but the biggest regret you'll have is to not take something away from it.

3. You can change who you are and what you like without apology. You are constantly changing and will forever. There is no box holding you in to one category.

4. Whatever happened in your past doesn't define the person you are right now. There is nothing like freeing yourself of that.

5. It's going to be okay when you think it's not. Circumstances change in two seconds sometimes and it's not the end of the world. Take a breath and regroup when you're not acting like it's do or die.

6. Loving yourself first will change how you feel about things. Keep loving yourself first because you can't give others what you don't have.

7. Maybe guacamole is worth the extra money every single time. Just live and do it to it.

8. You're human and getting frustrated while being a young mom comes with the territory. You'll learn to have more patience when you're not trying so hard.

9. Speaking of, be fucking patient with yourself more. There is no rush to make things happen. They will. Be in THIS moment or try, maybe something will feel less heavy.

10. Love is more important than any material possession and It's hard to admit sometimes that you don't always see that.

11. Telling someone how you feel is better than holding it in. Sometimes "saving" someone's feelings is more hurtful.

12. Letting go of negative people is so hard but so rewarding. There's no need to keep people in your life that don't make you happy. What's the point.

13. Saying no is perfectly okay. Say no more when you don't want to. Go try it.

14. Speaking of, people change and not always for the better. You don't owe those people an explanation for why they are no longer in your life.

15. Make more time to enjoy the things that actually make you feel like you're alive. The ocean has always done that. Go there more and feel like a part of something bigger.

16. Having opinions doesn't have to be an argument. You're so passionate about what you stand for that you turn off the other side. Part of living with opinions is being able to listen to the other side too. Not to agree but to give the other person a chance.

17. Trying new things and being awful at them is actually the most rewarding. You can only go up from there.

18. You're stronger when you are vulnerable and open up to the people that can crush it in seconds. How brave it is to watch someone expose who they are and are willing to trust someone to not completely crush them.

19. Make more things that you love + maybe it'll bring joy to those around you too.

20. You finally learned how to successfully pick the perfect avocado. You go.

21. Just like not being able to find the right avocado, you don't have control over every aspect of your life. Sometimes you have to sit back and let's things play out.

22. People are mean. That's it. Some people just don't have the ability to empathize with another person and you can't control that either. Having a big heart sometimes means getting disappointed by the actions of others and not being able to do a thing about it.

23. Beauty has transformed into a different meaning and I'm so happy I learned that this early. If you don't know what I mean, do some soul searching.

24. Having anxiety doesn't mean you can't go do things, just find the people who understand. Those people will be okay with you cancelling 800 times to hangout once every 6 months. Those are real friends.

25. You are only learning. Don't bank on what your life is going to be here on out. The unexpected is a far less scary place when you don't think there "has" to be an agenda. You're okay. Just live.

 

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