Submitted Date 02/27/2019

Life will throw potato salad on one’s bedroom wall, and no matter how well one plans for the worst, one could not be ready for every mess. No one is in control of the world and the opportunities that present themselves (or lack thereof). Although one may not have the power to delegate what he/she can receive and deal with in life, one is in control of how to respond to life’s spoiled mac and cheese circumstances.

Worrying about conflicts or situations that upset the natural rhythm in one’s life is normal. Occasionally, it’s good to worry a bit because it can cause one to be concerned enough to address a matter. Giving into anxiety is a natural reaction to life’s spontaneity, but if one’s mind is lost in deep rumination a red flag needs to be raised on the roof of his/her head. While anxiety is a normal reaction to stress (not ongoing anxiety which can be generalized anxiety disorder or etc) if one continues to entertain worrying, it can cause delirious effects to one’s body.

When one excessively worries our better initiates a “fight or flight” response. From there, the nervous system will release two stress hormones called cortisol and adrenaline. Cortisol and Adrenal can cause physical reactions such as headaches, muscle aches, nausea, a fast heartbeat. More severe reactions such as a heart attack, digestive disorders, and muscle tension can also occur over time. Excessive worrying is not worth the slight diminishing of one’s well-being. Everything changes. Including the arbitrary situations that can change one’s mind to be overwhelmed with what-if scenarios.

Here are a few tips to avoid excessive worrying or to cease dark ruminating:

Be in the moment

With every activity/task, you partake in, invest all of your attention to it. Whatever situation you are overly concerned about, don’t force it out of your mind. Only focus on the allotted task at hand and the immensely entertained thought will fade away. If you are walking, observe your pathway. Look at the green orange leaves, listen to the open toes sling backs clicking against the concrete or watch the snowflakes fall as you wait for the bus.


· If you can stop what you’re doing and address the matter that causes you an ample amount of distress, then do so. Honestly, reflect whether or not there is a likely solution. Are there options that will annihilate the problem?

· If not, then acknowledge that you have no control. Breathe in deeply and release the unsolicited responsibility of matter you cannot change.

· Never attempt to “stop” or “force” the thought to leave your mind. It will only linger longer in your mind. Allow the stressful believed to pass, but do not entertain it. You may not monitor what enters your mind. However, you can control what thoughts you can entertain.

You are in charge of what you allow to linger in your mind.

You don’t have to allow situations to crowd your thoughts and cause physical symptoms. Breathe, release and move forward!


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